You can go for new things, meet new people, and learn new skills. However, one simple way has helped millions of people improve their lives without having to change anything about themselves. By identifying your quirks and tendencies, you can make significant improvements to almost every aspect of your life just by being aware of them.
Ask some questions
Chances are, you’ve got a lot of questions. Not just the sort of general queries that you ask every day (like “How do I get to the grocery store?”), but also the sort of questions you’ve been meaning to ask but haven’t had time for, or the ones that have been sitting in your head for quite some time and now feel impossible to voice out loud. You can use questions from Twinfluence.com.
There’s nothing wrong way or right way to find quirky tendencies. But if you’re looking for inspiration on where and how to start asking the right questions, here are some ideas:
- Ask your partner what they’d like more of in their life—and then listen! If they say, “I need more sleep,” don’t try and convince them otherwise by saying things like “, But it’s so much fun staying up late!” Instead, hear them out and let them know how much it means when they express their needs clearly.”
Look for inconsistent behavior
The second way is to look for inconsistencies in your partner’s actions. These can be found in places you wouldn’t expect and sometimes in the most mundane of places. One of my friends has a quirk that she does not like to cross her legs when sitting down, even if it is for just a few moments or if she is just resting them (generally speaking).
Another person I know gets very upset when they accidentally leave their keys behind at someone’s house and will drive back several blocks to retrieve them rather than get new ones cut. While these odd behaviors may seem insignificant on their own, they are actually quite revealing about how someone thinks.
Find out what keeps you from achieving your goals
When it comes to identifying our quirks, we have to be honest with ourselves. Do we have to ask ourselves what is holding us back? What are the obstacles standing in our way of achieving our goals? How can we overcome these obstacles?
Make a list of characteristics.
To start, make a list of characteristics. This can include things such as your habits, interests, physical traits, likes, and dislikes. Next to each characteristic, write down how likely it is that the person you’re interested in has that characteristic. Make sure to include both positive and negative characteristics, so you don’t end up getting stuck with someone who shares all of your good qualities but none of your bad ones!
The next step is to make a list of things you like and dislike about yourself. Not only will this help identify unique quirks with which you can attract partners who share them, but it will also allow for self-reflection in areas where one may need improvement (e.g., maybe they are too introverted). The same goes for hobbies or activities—you might think they’re fun at first but then find yourself bored after a while—now’s the best time to find out before investing too much time into something new!
What makes you happy/sad
If you’re going to be good at helping people, it’s important to know what makes you feel happy and sad. This is your baseline for how things should feel.
- What makes you happy/sad? Do you like comedies or tragedies? Do bright colors make you happy, or would you rather see muted tones? Are people who smile a lot more charming than those who scowl all the time? If someone is talking about something they love doing—for example, skateboarding—and they describe their passion as “it makes me happy,” then that’s probably something worth pursuing in life (although not necessarily skateboarding). It could also be an activity that involves money-making potential later on down the line—but we’ll get into that later on.
- What are your hobbies/interests/passions/etc.? For example, music appreciation; learning new languages; reading science fiction novels; chess- the list goes on forever! You can’t possibly do everything listed above unless it’s financially feasible (which most things aren’t). You’ve got plenty of time in life, so choose wisely here because, once again, you’re only allowed one thing per category!
What are your habits?
Your habits are a great way to get to know yourself. What you do when you’re bored, stressed, happy, or sad can be a window into your personality. Here are some examples of what people might do when they’re feeling certain ways:
- When they’re bored, they may snack on candy or watch TV
- When they’re stressed, they may play video games or clean their room
- When they’re happy, they may go for a walk/run or take their dog on a walk
- When they’re sad (or generally low energy), they may nap/sleep in late/stay in bed
Who do you spend time with
It’s important to note that the people around you can influence your behavior, so it’s a good idea to pay attention to the types of people in your life and how they affect you. You may want to consider whether these relationships are beneficial for you or if they could be replaced by ones more supportive of your goals. If it’s hard for you to find new friends, try joining an online community, attending events that interest you, or using apps like MeetUp!
Most people have a set of quirks that they can identify and work on
Some people tend to be introverted, while others are more outgoing. Some people enjoy being alone and writing in silence, while others find it easier to work around other people.
Many of these quirks can be harmless or beneficial in certain situations—but some can get annoying if you’re not careful! If your quirks don’t fit your personality or goals as a writer, then you might want to take some time figuring out how to manage them better for those moments when things go awry (which everyone has).
We hope you’ve been able to identify your quirks and understand how they can affect your life. Now that we’ve gone through some of the most common patterns, it’s time to work on changing them.